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Back in high school, I’d always been the confidant and always been one to give advice to upset, sometimes even crying friends who had just fought with their boyfriends or girlfriends. I always listened and analyzed their situations, most of which are pretty freaking silly and petty. What follows is my analysis of some circumstances that start fights between a couple and what I think about each situation.

Situation 1. Not checking in with the boyfriend or girlfriend for a gimmick
Say, your friends call you up and ask you to have a drink somewhere. You don’t call your boyfriend or girlfriend to say where you’re going since you know you’ll be safe and having a good time with your friends. Your beau calls you up, hears all the noise, and blows his/her top. Your night is ruined… Heck, everyone’s night is ruined because you’re either pissed and dissing your girlfriend or crying and telling everyone what happened with your boyfriend.
Thing here is that there should be no rule that calls for people in a relationship to know what he/she does, where or when the other goes, nor with whom. Trust! If you don’t trust, stop kidding yourselves. You can’t live your life with someone you fear is cheating on you.
Another reason for this rule could be the fear for safety. Well, that’s understandable, but let’s be practical. It’s like smothering, even if you just want to be aware. If there’s an emergency, God gave man the mobile phone. In cases where you get held-up always have change in your pocket for a payphone and a commute, maybe hail a cab and pay for it when you get home.
Relax… There shouldn’t be a rule, but it would be nice if you gave out the information voluntarily just in case. If your beau is out, he/she is out—end of story.