There’s a classic jazz song for every part of a relationship. Well, maybe this could me a movie soundtrack album…
1. Dreaming of that certain someone—someone to watch over me, Natalie Cole
“There’s a somebody I’m longing to see
I hope that he turns out to be
Someone who’ll watch over me.
I’m a little lamb who’s lost in the wood
I know I could always be good to
Someone who’ll watch over me
Although he may not be
the man some girls think of
As handsome to my heart he carries the key
Won’t you tell him, please
Please to put on some speed
Follow my lead oh how I need
Someone to watch over me”
2. Meeting that special someone—I’ve got a crush on you, Dinah Washington
“It’s not that you’re attractive
But oh my heart grew active
When you came into view
I’ve got a crush on you, Sweetie pie
All the day and night time, hear me sigh
I never had the least notion
That I could fall, with so much emotion
…
The world will have to pardon my mush
‘Cause I’ve got a crush, my baby, on you.”
3. Falling in love and thinking of that special someone all the time—the very thought of you, Natalie Cole
The very thought of you, and I forget to do
The little ordinary things that everyone ought to do
I’m living in a kind of daydream, I’m happy as a king
And foolish, though it may seem to me that’s everything
The mere idea of you, the longing here for you
You’ll never know how slow the moments go, till I’m near to you
I see your face in every flower, your eyes in stars above
It’s just the thought of you
The very thought of you, my love.”
4. Together with that someone—that Sunday that summer, Natalie Cole
If I had to choose just one day
To last my whole life through
It would surely be that Sunday
The day that I met you
…
If I had to choose one moment
To live within my heart
It would be that tender moment, recalling how we started
Darling, it would be when you smiled at me
That way, that Sunday, that summer.”
5. Fall Out—Don’t get around much anymore, Natalie Cole
“Missed the Saturday dance
Heard they crowded the floor
Couldn’t bear it without you
Don’t get around much anymore
Thought I’d visit the club
Got as far as the door
They’d have asked me about you
Don’t get around much anymore
Darling, I guess, my mind’s more at ease
But nevertheless, why stir up memories
Babe, divided on dates
Might have gone, but what for
Awfully different without you
Don’t get around much anymore.”
6. Reminiscing—Unforgettable, Natalie Cole and Nat King Cole
“Unforgettable, that’s what you are
Unforgettable, though near or far
Like a song of love that clings to me
How the thought of you does things to me
Never before has someone been more
Unforgettable in every way
And forever that’s how you’ll stay
That’s why darling, it’s incredible
That someone so unforgettable,
Thinks that I am unforgettable too.”
7. Getting back together—Our love is here to stay, Shirley Horn
It’s very clear, our love is stay
Not for a year, but ever and a day
The radio and the telephone
And the movies that we know
May just be passing fancies and in time may go
But oh my dear, our love is here to stay
Together we’re going a long long way
In time the rockies may crumble
Gibraltar may tumble, they’re only made of clay
But our love, our love, our love is here to stay.
Not for a year, but ever and a day
The radio and the telephone
And the movies that we know
May just be passing fancies and in time may go
But oh my dear, our love is here to stay
There’s one point throughout this week’s blogs that I have been missing and that love. There should be no other reason for getting in relationships and getting out of relationships for the lack of it. There have been many people, many songs that have tried to say what it means, but it really depends on you. For me, it’s a feeling that just hits you at some point in time, a feeling of comfort, security and satisfaction. Aside from a feeling, it’s a choice, a choice to be faithful and a choice to share your life. However, let’s never forget the sentiments of all the great poets and all the songs out there.
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Monday, June 15, 2009
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all in all...
You might’ve noticed a word that keeps on popping up in this series—rationality. You never get anything straight when you’re all emotion. I’m not saying be a robot and avoid feeling anything, that’s just stupid. What I mean is balance. Don’t let merely one aspect of your being rule you life, don’t just follow your heart nor should you just follow what your head tells you.
4 of 4 Nagging
You can get this from your parents, especially your mother. I got this from my then pregnant sister who didn’t have anyone else to bicker at since she and her husband had not moved in together yet. You can definitely get this from your girlfriend/wife, huh boys? You can just imagine how long a woman can go on and how much she can say once you’ve defiled one of the rules or agreements.
Nagging means finding fault in another constantly, that’s according to a dictionary. Everybody hates a nagger however, the naggers almost never know that they’re nagging.
Ladies, be mindful of yourselves. Whenever you notice that you run out of breath while you’ve been talking in a high-pitched and or really loud voice, shut up. You’re nagging the man and you’re nagging his ass away from you. He’ll run off to silence whenever he can, maybe even into the arms of another woman—a quiet woman at that. Try a low calm voice and a little “lambing” as we put it in Filipino should work and you should get what you want from the man.
Gentlemen, most women don’t just bicker for no reason at all. If you married a nagger who’s been nagging you since the beginning, you are a saint, not to mention you must be deaf and blind! On the other hand, first time she starts nagging, actually listen to what she’s saying. You might have been doing something she doesn’t like over and over again. Ask her to calm down in a calm voice if you don’t understand her anymore. Boy, hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn, so don’t dare fight fire with fire if you love that lady. Think about what she’s saying, if it’s true then you sir, have got to change your ways. If it’s not true, your woman probably just misses you and doesn’t know how else to grab your attention.
Well, there definitely are other things, but I won’t get ahead of myself since these are what I’m sure of as of the moment.
Nagging means finding fault in another constantly, that’s according to a dictionary. Everybody hates a nagger however, the naggers almost never know that they’re nagging.
Ladies, be mindful of yourselves. Whenever you notice that you run out of breath while you’ve been talking in a high-pitched and or really loud voice, shut up. You’re nagging the man and you’re nagging his ass away from you. He’ll run off to silence whenever he can, maybe even into the arms of another woman—a quiet woman at that. Try a low calm voice and a little “lambing” as we put it in Filipino should work and you should get what you want from the man.
Gentlemen, most women don’t just bicker for no reason at all. If you married a nagger who’s been nagging you since the beginning, you are a saint, not to mention you must be deaf and blind! On the other hand, first time she starts nagging, actually listen to what she’s saying. You might have been doing something she doesn’t like over and over again. Ask her to calm down in a calm voice if you don’t understand her anymore. Boy, hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn, so don’t dare fight fire with fire if you love that lady. Think about what she’s saying, if it’s true then you sir, have got to change your ways. If it’s not true, your woman probably just misses you and doesn’t know how else to grab your attention.
Well, there definitely are other things, but I won’t get ahead of myself since these are what I’m sure of as of the moment.
3 of 4 The EX's
Hmmm… One topic couples always avoid is the Ex. “Never talk to or about your Ex again.” “Never invite your Ex to parties.” Well, ladies and gentlemen, I even start the topic. Unfortunately, my boyfriend feels awkward when I ask about his past relationships.
I believe you get to know the other person when you learn about his/her past relationships. You can have them as basis for an evaluation your current situation. It might sound too geeky, but it’s true. Why avoid your past, when you can clearly learn from it?
Sometimes the worry is that the spark of the old relationship might come back upon the discussion of it. Try looking at it rationally; you’ll realize that if it does, your relationship would reveal itself to be a rebound relationship. You would’ve been kidding yourselves in the first place. If you talk about it, you save yourselves the trouble of an unhappy and unsatisfied life.
Should the “Ex conversations” become a reason for parting ways, I think it’s fine to be angry for a while. However, if you really loved and cared for person, try to be happy that he/she is happy, then try to move on and find your own happiness.
I believe you get to know the other person when you learn about his/her past relationships. You can have them as basis for an evaluation your current situation. It might sound too geeky, but it’s true. Why avoid your past, when you can clearly learn from it?
Sometimes the worry is that the spark of the old relationship might come back upon the discussion of it. Try looking at it rationally; you’ll realize that if it does, your relationship would reveal itself to be a rebound relationship. You would’ve been kidding yourselves in the first place. If you talk about it, you save yourselves the trouble of an unhappy and unsatisfied life.
Should the “Ex conversations” become a reason for parting ways, I think it’s fine to be angry for a while. However, if you really loved and cared for person, try to be happy that he/she is happy, then try to move on and find your own happiness.
2 of 4 Looking at/flirting with/crushing on other girls/guys
Sometimes, we just can’t help looking at the hot ones or crushing on the pretty ones… If you’re lucky and pretty/hot as well, they talk to you. Problem is, your beau gets jealous when such circumstances occur.
Be rational my friends… Every human being is attracted to beauty or what is aesthetically pleasing. That’s why we have celebrities that we ogle at. I don’t think what I’m about to say is applicable to guys so… Girls, I’m sure you appreciate other hot girls, if you don’t, learn to. You won’t turn into a lesbian, but if it is your cup of tea, good for you! Anyway, I’m losing my point… Instead of arguing about why the guy was looking at some other girl, you could’ve just looked at her yourself and you wouldn’t need to ask him. It’s even something to talk about, something to laugh about.
On the other hand, I find that it’s all right to flirt as long as there’s no follow through. I remember this one time, my friends told me I was flirting when I thought it was mere conversation and joking around. It’s one thing to talk about it or imagine it; it’s another thing to actually do something about it. They do say you should give yourself body, mind, and soul, but think about it… ”Man is insatiable.” In times like these, let the mind roam free, but keep your heart and soul where they are…
Be open and honest about your thoughts. Respect each others preferences, but always appreciate what you already have because that is hard to find.
Be rational my friends… Every human being is attracted to beauty or what is aesthetically pleasing. That’s why we have celebrities that we ogle at. I don’t think what I’m about to say is applicable to guys so… Girls, I’m sure you appreciate other hot girls, if you don’t, learn to. You won’t turn into a lesbian, but if it is your cup of tea, good for you! Anyway, I’m losing my point… Instead of arguing about why the guy was looking at some other girl, you could’ve just looked at her yourself and you wouldn’t need to ask him. It’s even something to talk about, something to laugh about.
On the other hand, I find that it’s all right to flirt as long as there’s no follow through. I remember this one time, my friends told me I was flirting when I thought it was mere conversation and joking around. It’s one thing to talk about it or imagine it; it’s another thing to actually do something about it. They do say you should give yourself body, mind, and soul, but think about it… ”Man is insatiable.” In times like these, let the mind roam free, but keep your heart and soul where they are…
Be open and honest about your thoughts. Respect each others preferences, but always appreciate what you already have because that is hard to find.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
First of 4
Back in high school, I’d always been the confidant and always been one to give advice to upset, sometimes even crying friends who had just fought with their boyfriends or girlfriends. I always listened and analyzed their situations, most of which are pretty freaking silly and petty. What follows is my analysis of some circumstances that start fights between a couple and what I think about each situation.
Situation 1. Not checking in with the boyfriend or girlfriend for a gimmick
Say, your friends call you up and ask you to have a drink somewhere. You don’t call your boyfriend or girlfriend to say where you’re going since you know you’ll be safe and having a good time with your friends. Your beau calls you up, hears all the noise, and blows his/her top. Your night is ruined… Heck, everyone’s night is ruined because you’re either pissed and dissing your girlfriend or crying and telling everyone what happened with your boyfriend.
Thing here is that there should be no rule that calls for people in a relationship to know what he/she does, where or when the other goes, nor with whom. Trust! If you don’t trust, stop kidding yourselves. You can’t live your life with someone you fear is cheating on you.
Another reason for this rule could be the fear for safety. Well, that’s understandable, but let’s be practical. It’s like smothering, even if you just want to be aware. If there’s an emergency, God gave man the mobile phone. In cases where you get held-up always have change in your pocket for a payphone and a commute, maybe hail a cab and pay for it when you get home.
Relax… There shouldn’t be a rule, but it would be nice if you gave out the information voluntarily just in case. If your beau is out, he/she is out—end of story.
Situation 1. Not checking in with the boyfriend or girlfriend for a gimmick
Say, your friends call you up and ask you to have a drink somewhere. You don’t call your boyfriend or girlfriend to say where you’re going since you know you’ll be safe and having a good time with your friends. Your beau calls you up, hears all the noise, and blows his/her top. Your night is ruined… Heck, everyone’s night is ruined because you’re either pissed and dissing your girlfriend or crying and telling everyone what happened with your boyfriend.
Thing here is that there should be no rule that calls for people in a relationship to know what he/she does, where or when the other goes, nor with whom. Trust! If you don’t trust, stop kidding yourselves. You can’t live your life with someone you fear is cheating on you.
Another reason for this rule could be the fear for safety. Well, that’s understandable, but let’s be practical. It’s like smothering, even if you just want to be aware. If there’s an emergency, God gave man the mobile phone. In cases where you get held-up always have change in your pocket for a payphone and a commute, maybe hail a cab and pay for it when you get home.
Relax… There shouldn’t be a rule, but it would be nice if you gave out the information voluntarily just in case. If your beau is out, he/she is out—end of story.
my twilight zone
Just recently, I was able to hang out with my friends from back home. I learned that there was “something” going on between two of them. I was surprised about that, weirded out really, but the biggest bombshell was that two other friends were already planning their wedding that would supposedly happen in 2 years. Well, no proposal or ring yet, nevertheless it seems that their minds were set—more the girl’s mind that is. Her boyfriend’s in the US right now, so I haven’t really heard his side on the matter. It didn’t take a while for the marriage idea to be passed around the table. They didn’t even ask me, they just said I’d be next. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 9 months now; they’re probably basing their assumptions on how long we’d been together and the fact that there had been no big issues between me and him.
When I got home, I sat up in bed for a while and pondered on what was happening. We’re all about the same age, early to mid twenties. Everyone’s working. Well, except me, still stuck in college. Anyway, it’s just astonishing how I have friends who are seriously talking about marriage. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. We’re all just in our twenties. Marriage means for-the-rest-of-your-life, “till death do we part.” Merely a month or two ago, we were talking about what to drink, the sitcoms we all enjoy, and the funny things that happen to us. They talk about work and careers, now all of a sudden it’s marriage? Oh, did I mention that one whole night they were thinking of baby names? Baby names for goodness’ sake! Well, some of our other friends had their accidents and have kids right now. One friend passed away in a car accident and left a daughter. Do we all have to live life on the fast lane?
I have thought about it and my boyfriend and I have talked about it. We decided not to do anything till we’re ready, like rich ready. My friends are actually set, the guy is rich, but I’m sure you’d agree that financial stability isn’t the only issue when it comes to marriage. There’s compatibility, emotional stability, the in-laws, not to mention the children, if or when they decide to have them. I’m certain there’s more on the list of things-to-consider-before-getting-married, but maybe when two people are in love that’s enough.
It’s scary to get into anything hastily. These days so many married couples are separated, annulled, or cheating on each other. Hey, I’m pragmatic and I think, being in our twenties, we’re all still too young for that kind of commitment and involvement. I’m not against marriage. I believe people should take time to know each other in as many aspects as they can, maybe live with each other for a while so they don’t find themselves at each other’s throats in the future when they realize they can’t stand something their spouse does.
When I got home, I sat up in bed for a while and pondered on what was happening. We’re all about the same age, early to mid twenties. Everyone’s working. Well, except me, still stuck in college. Anyway, it’s just astonishing how I have friends who are seriously talking about marriage. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. We’re all just in our twenties. Marriage means for-the-rest-of-your-life, “till death do we part.” Merely a month or two ago, we were talking about what to drink, the sitcoms we all enjoy, and the funny things that happen to us. They talk about work and careers, now all of a sudden it’s marriage? Oh, did I mention that one whole night they were thinking of baby names? Baby names for goodness’ sake! Well, some of our other friends had their accidents and have kids right now. One friend passed away in a car accident and left a daughter. Do we all have to live life on the fast lane?
I have thought about it and my boyfriend and I have talked about it. We decided not to do anything till we’re ready, like rich ready. My friends are actually set, the guy is rich, but I’m sure you’d agree that financial stability isn’t the only issue when it comes to marriage. There’s compatibility, emotional stability, the in-laws, not to mention the children, if or when they decide to have them. I’m certain there’s more on the list of things-to-consider-before-getting-married, but maybe when two people are in love that’s enough.
It’s scary to get into anything hastily. These days so many married couples are separated, annulled, or cheating on each other. Hey, I’m pragmatic and I think, being in our twenties, we’re all still too young for that kind of commitment and involvement. I’m not against marriage. I believe people should take time to know each other in as many aspects as they can, maybe live with each other for a while so they don’t find themselves at each other’s throats in the future when they realize they can’t stand something their spouse does.
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